Over the holidays, my mother asked me where I’d live if I could live anywhere. And really, I didn’t have an answer for her. There are places I would rather live because the cost of living is so good. There are places I’d like to live because they would afford me easy access to experiencing different cultures. There are places I’d love to live because the weather is grand. Sadly, there is very little overlap in these categories. Not to mention I would hate to live anywhere that my kinks weren’t acceptable.
So in a perfect world, I’d love to live in a place where the cost of living was fantastic, the weather was warm, I could travel to different places easily, and I could be my normal kinky self. Or perhaps I just need to be independently wealthy so the travel and cost of living wouldn’t be much of an issue. Then I could build my very own kink compound where I could have events, parties, classes, and play to my own heart’s content!
In addition to that, she asked me what my goal in life is. I told her my goal is to be happy. She gave me the funniest look. Then announced her goal was to cure world hunger. Now I’m happy she has a goal that works for her. But why isn’t being happy a “good enough” goal? So many people are NOT happy. At. All. And many more are only happy periodically. I know very few people who are happy most of the time. So I think my goal is a really good one! I may not bring about the end of poverty or hunger in the world. I may not cause world peace. But I’m happy. Most of the time. And I think that’s really important in the world today. I wish more people were happy. And along the vein of “Be the change you want to create,” I’m being happy. I think that is good on a personal level, and also I hope to model that out in the world. It’s possible to be happy. Most of the time. It looks a little different on everyone. But this is my life and my goal. I feel successful in life when I am actively working to maintain my happiness.
And if that is not a good enough goal for anyone, well it really doesn’t matter. They can fight my mom for the honor of curing world hunger. And when one of them does, I’ll be happy for them.